Been sometimes I rant about stuff like this.
Often people ask “Can I trust you?”. Anyone who will ask this question to another person, they do not trust people, still they want to verify/testify their thought with answer from the other person.
Many occasions, I been told by many people who say “Please trust me”, “Give me your trust”, “You can put your trust on me”. I don’t understand why trust can be given or granted. It is not a thing, how can I give it to you?
I want to share a scenario with you. I hope this will bring more thoughts into this topic.
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ManA: Can we implement solution ABC with some algorithm (programming code) from your people ( xx and yy)? I promise and you have my words this will work out fine. You can trust me.
ManB: Ok. Let’s move forward with your suggestion. I will get the algorithm from them and send it to you.
ManA: No, you must get them send directly to me and CC you. That is better and not influence by you.
ManB: […. moment of silence] Ok. As you wish.
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So, in the above scenario, has ManA looking for ManB for a favor and seek ManB’s trust? Is it necessary if this is something benefitial for all and do no harm?
Has ManB seek or verify further with the request? Did ManB need to say “I trust you” to prove the existence of trust?
ManA requested the information to be send over directly to him. Although he specify carbon copy to ManB. Do you find where is the trust now?
Just a simple scenario with a few sentences, we can identify Trust isn’t a thing. It is the most expensive value for human interaction. It takes years to build, a sentence/an action/ a few seconds to lose it.
Forgetting is easy, forgiving is noble, but to trust the same people again, that is a lesson we must learn.
Hope you enjoy the reading without food photo! 🙂
